What to Do with a Serial Cheater
A friendship with someone of the opposite sex unexpectedly turned into a romantic relationship and once it happened, they felt that it couldn’t be stopped
A few years ago, a man came to my home with a document that he wanted to give me. It was entitled, “How to Seduce a Woman.” He had spent most of his adult life cheating on his wife, and had recorded what he had learned in this manuscript. But after reading some of my articles on the suffering that cheating causes a betrayed spouse, he was convinced that what he had been doing was very wrong, and had decided to leave his life of cheating behind. He had confessed all of his affairs to his wife, had shown her what he had written, and was about to destroy it, but he thought that I might somehow find his experiences valuable in helping serial cheaters change their ways.
I never saw this man again, so I’m not sure if he was able to completely overcome serial cheating, but his report demonstrated to me that he, like most serial cheaters, went about his business of cheating with skill and careful planning. He learned from his successes and failures and became so proficient that he felt that he could seduce almost any woman, even my wife, Joyce, if he chose to do it. I didn’t want to challenge him on that point. (more…)